I was made to be married. I remember thinking that during our honeymoon phase, and it’s still just as true 11 years later. My husband is the most patient guy you’ll ever meet (at least with the kids and me!), smart, witty, and strength personified. Our relationship is such a gift, and I look forward to celebrating it with him on Valentine’s Day. Instead of just buying gifts neither one of us needs, or spending money we don’t have, I look forward to enjoying one of these minimalist Valentine’s Day ideas for couples.
Minimalism is not about being boring in life or cynical about society or possessions. It’s about identifying what really matters and protecting it from the noise of what doesn’t. I find Valentine’s Day to be one of the more annoying sources of “clutter” when it comes to our relationships. I do not need a stuffed bear, a cheap box of chocolates, a dozen roses, or even an expensive dinner out. This year, we’ll be whittling away the unnecessary merchandise and expectations and opting for these meaningful and minimalist Valentine’s Day ideas for couples.
Minimalist Valentine’s Day Ideas for Couples
Books. I will never turn down a good book. I love snuggling up with some quiet entertainment, inspiration, self-improvement, or delicious prose. If you’re looking for some inspiration in marriage health, I highly recommend The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. If you read through it together as a couple, it’s a great way to get to understand how each of you gives and receives love. (Hint: each spouse is usually different!)
Love notes. Who needs store-bought cards? Save your $5 (or more) and write a love note instead. If you put your heart into it, the words you write will be much more romantic and meaningful than any card you can pick up at the store. You could also write a dozen little love notes and hide them around the house for a simple scavenger hunt (or a day full of little surprises).
Flowers. Flowers are classic. But I’m not talking about the overpriced, overmarketed, bouquet of
cliche roses. Go to Home Depot and pick up some plantable flowers, succulents, or even some fragrant herbs. You can enjoy them for longer while basking in an element of slow living in your home.
Chocolate. But again, think outside the heart-shaped box. My favorite chocolate is the 85% dark chocolate from the little plastic boxes at Sprouts. If you want a minimalist Valentine’s Day, go for simple and high-quality over flashy and overpriced.
Games. We love having date nights at home after the kids go to bed. One of our favorite activities lately has been playing Heads Up! together. We sit in our pajamas with a glass of wine and it’s perfectly silly and simple.
Paint and wine night. I’m guessing you’ve seen these all over Groupon. But an even simpler option would be to do it at home. You could have other couples over, or keep it to you two. Grab some canvases, brushes, and paint and slow yourselves down.
Create a sweet ambiance. Put together a playlist of songs that are meaningful to the two of you and your relationship. Maybe you include the song you first danced to at your wedding, an artist or band you both enjoyed while you were dating. Light some candles and you’ve got yourself a romantic atmosphere tailored specifically to you.
Sweet treats. Festive, homemade treats can make a moment so special and they don’t have to be elaborate. Start the day off with a simple stack of pancakes topped with strawberries and fresh whipped cream. If I had my way, I’d also add a lavender mimosa.
Hygge-ify your evening. A soft, knitted blanket, hot tea, and fire are all you need for a cozy date at home. If you want to give gifts, I’ve put together a few hygge-related gift ideas. Otherwise, put on a movie or crack open that book and your minimalist Valentine’s Day evening is set!
Practical and mundane. There’s something so beautiful about the ease that has grown in our marriage. Instead of feeling pressured to talk when we’re together, we can sit silently together and it just feels like home. There’s no need to try and make every gift or activity exciting. In fact, after you have kids, the mundane actually becomes the new exciting (I know we’re not the only ones who like a good date at Costco). Carry this mentality into your minimalist Valentine’s Day, but slow it down a bit more. Enjoy the “boring”, mundane moments you have together. Maybe buy each other a new pair of socks. It truly could not be more beautiful.
How will you celebrate your relationships this Valentine’s Day?